That heavy look we give ourselves when we look in the mirror some mornings. Those harsh words we say to ourselves when we feel like a failure. That loss of confidence in ourselves, in our values, and in our strengths... We've all experienced times when we feel weakened. To remedy this and get back on track, we asked our pool of women's health and well-being specialists for their best advice for boosting self-esteem. Read and reread it as soon as doubt creeps in.
Dr. Nadège Roquet, obstetrician-gynecologist
I think that we women tend to depreciate ourselves rather than see what we do well. My first piece of advice would be to be kind to ourselves and tolerant of our imperfections. Try not to say to yourself: "I don't do this enough", "I'm not that enough". But rather "I've already done this" "I've already reached this point". A second? Take a little time for yourself as often as possible, ideally every day. A moment where you focus your thoughts on yourself, your needs and where you can say to yourself: "my next project for myself", "my next little pleasure is this". Even a little thing, like "tonight I'll put on a mask for 10 minutes", "I'll start the book I've wanted to read for a while", "I'll meditate". And if you haven't had the time, don't hold it against yourself, it will be for tomorrow!
Claire Borwin, nutritionist-dietitian
Connection to oneself: gaining autonomy and knowledge of oneself, one's limits but also one's qualities, is knowing who one is, what one wants and what one no longer wants, without justifying or apologizing.
The affirmation: repeat to yourself every day like a mantra: "I want to be connected to my body", whether this is through diet, sport, cultural and intellectual learning... Too many women are only in their mind, in a representation that we have of them as a mother, professional or partner, but too few in intimate connection with their deepest being.
Project implementation: setting a new, clearly defined goal with a reward. This provides the energy and motivation to implement the necessary strategy and achieve that goal. And this feeling of accomplishment really boosts self-esteem.
Margot Priolet, make-up artist
The most important thing would be to be able to look at yourself in the mirror without any judgment, just with a factual look. We always tend to judge our appearance. However, what may be a flaw for us may be a quality for someone else.
I also recommend finding a little time each day to be with yourself. Either when you wake up or before going to bed. This really allows you to become aware of everything your body does for you, to thank it for it, and to be kinder to it.
Dr. Sophie Domergue, cosmetic doctor
This is based on three essential points:
- take time for yourself (sport, care, well-being, shopping)
- know how to take risks, because there is no success without risk
- surround yourself with the right people
Love yourself!